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The transition from being a full-time mom to a working mom is not always an easy one to make, and it is so easy to get it wrong if you aren’t careful, which is why, below, I’ve put together a list of things you should definitely consider before you take the plunge and start applying for those new jobs.
1. The Great Schedule Debate
One of the biggest juggles is figuring out the work schedule that doesn’t just work on paper, but actually works for your life. Full-time, part-time, flextime, crime fighting by night—okay, maybe not that last one, but you get the idea. Consider the pros and cons of each setup. For instance, shift work might sound great because you can potentially avoid costly daycare by working opposite shifts from your partner. On the flip side, it can mean fewer family dinners and messing with your body clock more than a transatlantic flight. So, take a look at some examples of shift work and other working patterns and weigh these options like you're trying to balance a seesaw after Thanksgiving dinner.
2. Childcare Conundrum
Before you can confidently stride (or sprint, depending on how late you're running) out that door, you’ll need a rock-solid childcare plan. This isn’t just about finding someone you trust to watch your little treasure(s); it’s also about backup plans. What happens when the sitter cancels, or kiddo number two starts impersonating a mucus fountain? Explore all avenues—daycares, nannies, family, friends who owe you one for that time in Vegas…
3. Workplace Flexibility
Long gone are the days when work was strictly a 9-to-5 ordeal. Many modern workplaces offer flexibility that would make even a yoga instructor jealous. Look for employers who understand that your toddler might have hijacked your conference call to perform a solo of "Let It Go." Telecommuting, flexible hours, and understanding bosses can make the transition smoother than your baby’s bottom.
4. Re-Skilling and Up-Skilling
The job market evolves faster than your pre-teen’s social media preferences. It’s crucial to check if your skills need a dust-off or a complete upgrade. There are plenty of online courses that can help you re-skill at your own pace, often in your PJs. This isn’t just about making you employable; it’s about making you competitive. Plus, learning new things can be as refreshing as actually sleeping through the night.
5. Emotional Readiness
Going back to work isn’t just a logistical decision; it’s an emotional one. Are you ready to miss some of those daytime milestones? On the other hand, are you craving adult conversation that doesn’t involve character debates from children's TV shows? Gauge your emotional readiness. It's okay to feel excited, guilty, nervous, or all of the above—sometimes within the span of five minutes.
6. Financial Feasibility
Let’s talk turkey (and by turkey, I mean money). Assess the financial impact of going back to work. Consider the costs of childcare, commuting, wardrobe updates (because yoga pants might not cut it in the boardroom), and increased takeout meals against your potential earnings. Sometimes, the net gain isn’t worth the trade-off. Or sometimes, it absolutely is.
7. The Partner Pow-Wow
If you have a partner in crime, their thoughts and support play a pivotal role in this decision. Have a real talk about expectations, sharing household chores, and how you’ll handle the new dynamics. It’s important to be on the same page, or at least reading from the same book.
8. Social Support Network
They say it takes a village to raise a child. Well, it also takes one to support a working mom. Lean on your social network—family, friends, fellow moms, sympathetic strangers. Whether it’s swapping playdates or venting about your day, having a strong support system can be your sanity’s lifeline.
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9. Assess Your Long-Term Career Goals
What are your professional aspirations? Do you see yourself climbing the corporate ladder, or are you more interested in steady, meaningful work that keeps you engaged without overwhelming your family time? Understanding your long-term career goals can help you choose positions that will be rewarding both personally and professionally. Reflect on where you want to be in five or ten years and consider how your prospective job will help you get there.
10. Consider the Commute
Your daily commute can have a significant impact on your work-life balance. Lengthy commutes can drain your energy and steal time away from family activities or personal relaxation. When considering a job offer, factor in the commute time and the associated costs. Is telecommuting an option, at least part-time? Could you listen to educational podcasts or audiobooks to turn commute time into productive or enriching moments?
11. Examine Company Culture
The culture of a workplace can greatly affect your satisfaction and success in a job. Does the company support working parents? Are there other mothers who have thrived there? Does it offer any unique benefits like on-site childcare, lactation rooms, or family health services? A supportive environment can make a huge difference in easing the transition back to work.
12. Healthcare and Benefits
Examine the benefits package beyond the salary. Healthcare is a critical factor, especially with children in the picture. Look for companies that offer comprehensive health benefits, including dental and vision, and consider how much of a difference this will make in your family’s life. Also, check if there are wellness programs, employee assistance programs, and retirement plans that could enhance your family's financial security.
13. The Role of Technology
Leverage technology to streamline your daily tasks. Many apps and tools are designed to help working parents manage their time and responsibilities more efficiently. From family scheduling apps to meal planning software, find tools that help you keep track of everything without dropping the ball at home or work.
14. Establish a Morning Routine
A solid morning routine can set the tone for a successful day. Work out a system that allows you to get yourself and your children ready without chaos. This might involve preparing the night before or waking up a bit earlier to enjoy a few moments of peace before the day starts.
15. Build In "Me Time"
It’s crucial to preserve a little time for yourself. Self-care isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a necessity that keeps you functioning at your best both at home and at work. Whether it’s a short walk, reading a book, or practicing yoga, find something that helps you unwind and feel like yourself.
16. Stay Organized at Home
The more organized you are at home, the easier it will be to start working again with fewer stresses getting in the way of the experience. So, definitely get the daily together to come up with a schedule for cleaning and other chores, and make sure everyone pitches in with it all.
17. Negotiate Flexibility
When interviewing for new positions or discussing a return to work, don’t shy away from negotiating terms that will support your work-life balance. This could include flexible hours, the option to work remotely, or even compressed work weeks.
18. Personal Fulfillment
You aren’t just a mom or just an employee; you are a complex human being in your own right, so you absolutely need to consider your own personal fulfilment into the equation before you go back to work. If the idea of starting a new job fills your heart with joy, then go ahead and make the move!
Before you dive back into the workforce, take a moment to assess these facets, so that you can find the right balance that lets you thrive both at work and at home. Good luck!