Being a mom is the best job in the world, but let's not sugarcoat things. It’s stressful too! Having little ones (and even big ones) takes up so much of our time and energy that we so often end up on the back burner. The trouble is that even a small amount of stress can be bad for our health, so it’s worth having some plans in place for managing it when things get tough. Here are some ideas!

Power Napping

Sleep is often a luxury for moms, we tend to be the last ones to bed and the first ones up- without a whole lot of free time between the two. But if you can, adding power napping into your day can be a total game changer, it might be something that takes a bit of practice but is well worth doing. Find a quiet spot, set an alarm for 15-20 minutes, and allow yourself a quick nap. Dont be tempted to sleep for longer as this can sometimes make you feel worse, but that short time asleep can massively recharge your batteries for the rest of the day without affecting your night time sleep. If you’re constantly used to being on the go then this can feel really strange and might not be something you can do right away. But keep at it, choose a time in the day where you naturally start to feel worn out and go and lie in your quiet, dark bedroom. If you have a baby or a toddler you could do this during their nap time, otherwise if you have nursery or school aged kids then set aside this block of time just for you. It can make such a difference to your mental health, mood and energy levels!

Expressive Writing

Sometimes we just need an outlet for all those thoughts swirling in our mind. Consider keeping a journal to jot down your feelings, frustrations and even the small victories- and be sure to write this just for you. Don’t worry about how it would sound to anyone else, be totally honest and let it all out onto paper. If you’re worried about anyone finding or reading your private thoughts simply destroy the paper once you’re done. But just having that outlet can really help, as sometimes we feel anxious, stressed or just out of sorts but dont know why. When you write things out it can help you to make sense of it all. Expressive writing has therapeutic benefits, helping you process emotions and gain perspective. And hey, its much cheaper than a therapist!

Avoid Doom Scrolling

Taking a break from your phone can do wonders for your mental wellbeing, many of us mums use our phone as a crutch without even realising. You might feel bad for constantly finding yourself scrolling but what you’re doing is seeking a small hit of dopamine. And phones are accessible and easy to do this, the problem is is that it can actually make us feel worse over time. If you do get a free minute, the chance for a relaxed bath or an hour before bed, use your time in a different way instead. Using screens doesnt need to be completely off limits, but watching a movie that engages you or is a way to spend time with your partner is a much better way to spend time with tech than mindless scrolling. The same is true when it comes to listening to a podcast or reading an e-book, you’re consuming proper content that can make you feel better as opposed to snippets of videos and info on social media which is all but meaningless.

Mindful Walking 

We all know the benefits of exercise, but as an exhausted mum, the last thing you probably want to do is use up your little energy levels chasing the burn. However, it doesnt have to be all or nothing. Walking is so good for you and can be great for your mental health too. Go on a walk to the park with your kids, or go on a long dog walk. Even just walking to and from school instead of driving can be refreshing as long as you leave yourself enough time and dont feel like you’re rushing. 

Learn to Say No

As moms, we’re all things to everyone. It’s a huge role to fill and  it's easy to fall into the habit of saying yes to everything- it’s no wonder that many turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol. But dont let it get to the point that you end up in an addiction program, nipping things in the bud and setting boundaries will help you maintaining your sanity without the need for substances. Learn to say no when needed, get organised and prioritise tasks based on their importance. Your boundaries could be anything from not giving lifts to teenage kids past a certain time of night because you’re relaxing, to saying no to helping out at the bake fair at the weekend. It doesnt make you a bad mom, we all have a limited amount of time and effort and yours should be spent in a way thats meaningful to you. It shouldnt mean being at the beck and call of everyone around you at all times. 

Delegate 

Moms, it really is okay to ask for help. You might have the attitude that you can and will do it all, but dont wear yourself down unnecessarily. Delegate tasks to your partner, children, or even hire some help if its possible financially. Sharing responsibilities lightens your load and allows you more time for self care, which can make you happier and generally a nicer person to be aorund. Being a super mom doesn't mean doing everything on your own; it means knowing when to ask for support.

Mindful Eating

Mealtime can be a hectic affair for moms, but instead of rushing through your meals, practice mindful eating. Take the time to savour each bite, paying attention to flavours and textures. Come up with a rota of meals that you can cook easily and that you and your family enjoy- utilise kitchen tools like the slow cooker to make life easier. Enjoy tasty, home cooked food and make it a family occasion every night. 

Connect with Other Moms

You're not alone in this journey. Connect with other moms who understand the challenges you face. Share your experiences, exchange advice, and lean on each other for support. Whether it's through local mom groups or online communities, the support of fellow moms can be comforting and empowering.